Ever feel like weight loss is some kind of psychological warfare?
Like your brain and your stomach are in an epic battle, and somehow, the fridge always wins?
Well, you’re not alone. And here’s the truth: weight loss isn’t just about calories, workouts, or cutting carbs—it’s about how you think about the whole process.
Hey there, I’m Rick Taylar, and this is The Weight Loss Mindset Podcast.
If you’ve ever struggled with losing weight, sticking to a plan, or feeling like you’re constantly starting over, then you’re in the right place.”
Here’s the deal: Your mindset can either be your biggest weapon or your greatest obstacle.
If you get this part right, weight loss gets easier, more sustainable, and—dare I say—actually enjoyable. Stick with me, and I’ll show you how.
Today, we’re diving into six essential mindset shifts that can transform your weight loss journey.
And no, this isn’t about ‘just staying positive’ or ‘visualizing success’—this is about real, practical changes that will make everything click in your brain so your body can finally follow.
So, let’s jump in. And don’t worry, no motivational fluff here—just real talk, straight strategies, and maybe a few hard truths along the way.
Why Mindset Matters
Alright, let’s start with the million-dollar question: Why is weight loss so damn hard?
I mean, we all know the basics, right? Eat less, move more. Simple in theory. But if it were really that simple, we wouldn’t have an entire industry built around it. The problem isn’t just what we do—it’s how we think about it.
The Common Struggles
For most people, the hardest part isn’t the diet itself.
It’s the mental game. It’s the part where you start strong on Monday, feel unstoppable by Wednesday, and by Friday, you’re eating pizza like it’s your last meal on earth. Sound familiar?
So, what’s really happening? Why do we self-sabotage? Why do we ‘know better’ but not do better?
The Real Problem: Mindset
Here’s the truth: Weight loss isn’t just a physical challenge—it’s a psychological one.
Your brain is wired for survival, not six-pack abs. It wants comfort, predictability, and easy energy sources—aka, those cookies calling your name from the kitchen.This is why mindset matters. Because if you don’t shift the way you think about weight loss, no diet, workout, or magic supplement will ever stick.
The Good News
But here’s the thing—your mindset isn’t set in stone.
You can rewire the way you approach weight loss, and when you do, everything changes. Instead of battling yourself every day, you actually start working with your brain instead of against it.
And that’s exactly what we’re about to do. I’ve got six key mindset shifts that will help you lose weight without feeling miserable. These aren’t gimmicks—they’re the foundation of long-term success.
So let’s start with the first one—and it’s a big one: Stop beating yourself up.
Mindset Shift #1 – Stop Beating Yourself Up
Alright, let’s start with the first big mindset shift: Stop beating yourself up. And I mean it—cut it out.
Here’s a question: If shaming yourself into losing weight actually worked… wouldn’t you already be at your goal? Exactly.
Most of us are way too hard on ourselves. We look in the mirror, sigh dramatically, and think, ‘Why can’t I just have more willpower?’ But let me tell you—self-criticism is the least effective weight loss strategy ever invented.
Why We Blame Ourselves
A lot of people think their weight is a personal failure, like it’s some kind of moral shortcoming. It’s not.
Your weight is a result of your habits, your environment, your genetics, and—big one—how you’ve been conditioned to think about food and your body.
And society? Oh, it doesn’t help. It’s constantly telling us we need to be smaller, fitter, leaner. But at the same time, it’s throwing fast food ads, oversized portions, and stress-eating situations at us 24/7.
It’s like being told to swim while people keep tossing bricks at you. No wonder it’s hard.
The Real Fix: Self-Compassion
Now, I’m not saying we should just accept bad habits and never change.
But the way you talk to yourself matters. You cannot hate your body into becoming a body you love.
Think about it this way—would you ever talk to a friend the way you talk to yourself? Probably not. So why is it okay to be your own worst critic?
The fix? Start treating yourself like someone worth taking care of. Not just when you hit your goal weight—but now.
Practical Action Step
So here’s a challenge for you this week: Every time you catch yourself saying something negative about your body or your progress, I want you to pause and reframe it.
- Instead of “I’m so lazy, I should have worked out today,” try “I didn’t work out today, but I’ll make a small, healthy choice instead.”
- Instead of “I’ll never lose weight,” try “Every choice I make adds up—I’m getting there.”
- Instead of “I hate my body,” try “My body is working for me every single day.”
This might feel weird at first, but trust me, it works. Because once you stop beating yourself up, you can actually start moving forward.
Alright, now that we’ve tackled that, let’s move on to the next big mindset shift: Patience. Because if you expect overnight results, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.
Mindset Shift #2 – Cultivate Patience
Alright, let’s talk about patience. And before you roll your eyes, hear me out—because this one is a game-changer.
If you’re like most people, you start a new diet on Monday, expect to see results by Wednesday, and by Friday, when the scale hasn’t budged, you’re convinced your metabolism is broken.
Sound familiar? If so, congratulations—you’re human.
Why We Expect Instant Results
Look, it’s not your fault. We live in a world where you can order food, get same-day delivery, and binge an entire TV series in one night. We’re wired for instant gratification.
But weight loss? It doesn’t work that way. It’s like planting a seed and expecting a tree the next morning. Real change takes consistency over time.
The Truth About Progress
Here’s the reality: Sustainable weight loss happens slowly. We’re talking an average of 4-8 pounds a month. That’s it.
And that’s if you’re consistent. If you lose 10 pounds in a week? It’s mostly water, and trust me, it’s coming back.
But if you keep going? If you lose 5 pounds a month, that’s 60 pounds in a year. That’s life-changing. But most people quit before they ever get there—because they expected instant results.
Reframing Your Timeline
So, instead of thinking, ‘How fast can I lose weight?’ try asking, ‘How can I make choices I can actually sustain for a year?’ Because when you shift your focus from ‘quick fix’ to ‘long game,’ everything changes.
Actionable Tip: The One-Year Rule
Ask yourself this: If I lost weight at a slow, steady pace, but a year from now, I was at my goal—would I be happy?
If the answer is yes, then stop obsessing over fast results and focus on small, consistent wins.
So next time you’re feeling impatient, remind yourself: progress, not perfection. Because the only way to fail is to quit.
Alright, let’s move on to something just as important: setting realistic goals. Because if your goals are impossible, you’re setting yourself up to fail before you even start.
Mindset Shift #3 – Be Realistic About Your Goals
Alright, let’s get real about your weight loss goals.
Because if your expectations are way off, you’re setting yourself up for frustration and failure before you even start.
Why Unrealistic Goals Set You Back
*Tell me if this sounds familiar: You start a new plan and think, ‘I’m going to lose 20 pounds this month!’
You go all in, cut carbs, hit the gym hard, maybe even survive on salads. But by week two, you’ve lost 3 pounds, and suddenly, you feel like a failure. The next thing you know, you’re drowning in a pint of ice cream because ‘why even bother?’
See the problem? It’s not that you failed—it’s that your goal was ridiculous to begin with.
The Reality Check
So, let’s talk numbers. A realistic, sustainable weight loss rate is 4-8 pounds per month—not per week.
That’s 48-96 pounds in a year. Huge progress! But because people expect insane, ‘Biggest Loser’ style results, they give up too soon.
And let’s be honest—most of us want results yesterday. But if you want to lose weight and keep it off, it has to be at a pace your body can actually sustain.
Reframing Your Goals
Instead of setting yourself up for disappointment, set goals you can actually reach. Here’s a better way to do it:
- Instead of: ‘I’m going to lose 20 pounds this month,’
- Try: ‘I’m going to focus on daily habits that help me lose 1-2 pounds per week.’
- Instead of: ‘I need to lose 50 pounds as fast as possible,’
- Try: ‘I’m going to create habits that make weight loss effortless over time.’
Small, achievable goals build momentum. Momentum keeps you going. And consistency is what actually gets you results.
Actionable Tip: The 30-Day Focus
Try this: Instead of focusing on the end goal, focus on 30-day habit-based goals.
Ask yourself, ‘What small change can I commit to for the next month?’ Maybe it’s drinking more water, walking every day, or cutting down on processed foods.
When you focus on habits, the results take care of themselves.
Alright, now let’s talk about one of the biggest weight loss success factors—having the right support system. Because trying to do this alone? That’s a mistake.
Mindset Shift #4 – Ask for Support from Family & Friends
Alright, let’s talk about something most people don’t realize is a massive factor in weight loss success: who you surround yourself with.
Because here’s the truth—going solo makes things 10x harder. And yet, so many people try to white-knuckle their way through weight loss alone, like it’s some heroic act of willpower. Spoiler alert: That rarely works.
Why Support Matters
Think about the hardest goals you’ve ever accomplished. Was it easier because you had people backing you up? Probably. Whether it was school, work, or any challenge in life, having support makes the difference.
Weight loss is no different. In fact, studies show that people who have accountability partners are way more likely to stick with their goals than those who go at it alone.
The Problem: Unsupportive Environments
But let’s be real—not everyone in your life is going to be supportive.
You might have friends who pressure you to ‘just have one more drink’ or family members who say, ‘You don’t need to lose weight, just enjoy life!’ And while their intentions might not be bad, they’re not helping.
Then there are the people who low-key sabotage you—the ones who roll their eyes at your healthy choices or say, ‘Oh, you’re on a diet again?’ Yeah, those people? Not your weight loss allies.
How to Build a Support System
So what do you do?
You find your people. The ones who respect your goals, cheer you on, and maybe even join you in making better choices.
Here’s how to do it:
✅ Tell your close friends & family what you’re working on—and be clear that their support matters.
✅ Find an accountability partner. This could be a gym buddy, a friend with similar goals, or even an online community.
✅ Set boundaries with unsupportive people. If someone keeps pushing you to eat junk or skip workouts, it’s okay to say, ‘Hey, I need your support, not temptation.’
Actionable Tip: The ‘Phone a Friend’ Rule
Try this: Pick one person who supports you and tell them, ‘Hey, can I check in with you once a week about my progress?’ Even a simple text like ‘I hit my step goal today!’ can keep you motivated.
Let’s move on to something just as importantl—having a clear, realistic action plan. Because without a plan, all the motivation in the world won’t help you stay consistent.
Mindset Shift #5 – Establish a Realistic Action Plan
Alright, so we’ve tackled mindset, patience, goal-setting, and support.
Now let’s talk about strategy. Because, without a game plan, all the motivation in the world won’t get you anywhere.
This is where a lot of people go wrong. They start their weight loss journey full of energy, with an ‘all or nothing’ attitude, and then two weeks later, they burn out faster than a cheap candle.
The Problem: Going Too Hard, Too Fast
How many times have you said, ‘That’s it! I’m cutting out sugar, waking up at 5 AM for workouts, drinking a gallon of water, and eating nothing but grilled chicken and broccoli!’ Only to crash and burn by the weekend?
Yeah. That’s the problem. People make huge, drastic changes that aren’t realistic long-term. And when they can’t sustain them, they feel like failures. But the issue was never you—it was your plan.
The Fix: Start Small & Build Up
Think about Olympic marathon runners. They don’t wake up one day and run 26 miles. They train gradually. Small wins build momentum, and momentum creates real progress.
Same goes for weight loss. Instead of going from 0 to 100, you need to build habits you can actually stick to.
The 3-Step Realistic Plan
Here’s a simple way to create a realistic action plan that actually works:
1️⃣ Pick ONE small change to start with. Instead of overhauling your entire diet, maybe you just start by drinking more water or adding protein to breakfast.
2️⃣ Stack your habits. Once your first change feels easy, add another. Walk for 10 minutes after dinner. Then, work on portion sizes. One step at a time.
3️⃣ Adjust as needed. Life happens. If a plan isn’t working, tweak it—don’t quit. The key is flexibility, not perfection.
The secret to success isn’t big changes—it’s small changes that add up.
Actionable Tip: The 30-Day Plan
Try this: Instead of thinking long-term, focus on just the next 30 days. What’s one small, realistic habit you can commit to for a month? Once that sticks, layer on another one. Rinse and repeat.
Alright, now let’s talk about something most people forget—rewarding yourself. Because if you’re miserable the whole time, guess what? You’re not going to stick with it.
Mindset Shift #6 – Treat Yourself Now and Then
This is something a lot of people get wrong when it comes to weight loss—rewards. Because if you think you have to suffer through this whole journey without enjoying yourself, you’re doing it wrong.
The Problem: The ‘All Work, No Play’ Mentality
Somewhere along the way, we picked up this idea that weight loss has to be miserable. That if we’re not struggling, we’re not trying hard enough. But that’s just not true. If your plan makes you miserable, guess what? You’re not going to stick with it.
And the worst part? Most people use food as their only reward. They ‘diet’ all week, then ‘treat themselves’ by binge-eating on the weekend. It’s a cycle that leads nowhere.
The Fix: Reward Yourself Without Food
The key is to celebrate progress without undoing it.
And that means finding rewards that don’t involve food. Because let’s be honest—you’re not a dog, you don’t need a treat every time you do something good.
So instead of rewarding yourself with junk food, try these ideas instead:
✅ New workout gear – Nothing makes you want to move more than fresh sneakers.
✅ A fun experience – Go to the movies, get a massage, or take a day trip.
✅ Pampering – Treat yourself to a haircut, a spa day, or just a night of relaxation.
✅ Something just for you – A book, a hobby, or anything that makes you happy.
[Why This Works]
When you reward yourself in ways that make you feel good without sabotaging your progress, it keeps you motivated. You start to associate weight loss with positive reinforcement, not deprivation.
Here’s a challenge: Set up a non-food reward system for your goals.
Maybe every 5 pounds lost, you treat yourself to something fun. Maybe every 30 days of consistency, you do something special. Whatever it is, make sure it’s something that keeps you excited to keep going.
Alright, we’ve covered a lot today. Let’s bring it all together and wrap this up with some final takeaways.
Bringing It All Together – Final Takeaways
If you want lasting weight loss, you don’t just need a new diet—you need a new way of thinking. And that starts with these six mindset shifts:
1️⃣ Stop Beating Yourself Up – Self-criticism doesn’t work. Be kind to yourself and focus on progress, not perfection.
2️⃣ Cultivate Patience – Weight loss takes time. Quick fixes don’t last. Play the long game.
3️⃣ Be Realistic About Your Goals – Forget the ‘lose 20 pounds in a month’ nonsense. Set goals that you can actually reach.
4️⃣ Ask for Support – Doing this alone makes it harder. Find people who support your journey.
5️⃣ Establish a Realistic Action Plan – Small, sustainable changes beat extreme overhauls every time.
6️⃣ Treat Yourself Now and Then – Reward yourself with experiences, not just food. Make the journey enjoyable.
Listen, weight loss isn’t about punishing yourself. It’s about taking care of yourself. When you shift your mindset, the whole process becomes easier—and dare I say, even enjoyable.
You don’t need to be perfect. You don’t need to lose weight overnight. You just need to keep going. One small step at a time.
I want to leave you with a challenge: Pick one of these mindset shifts and focus on it this week. Just one. Then, let me know how it goes.
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That’s it for today. Thanks for hanging out with me, and I’ll catch you in the next episode of The Weight Loss Mindset Podcast. Stay strong, stay patient, and most importantly—stay kind to yourself.